Support for Pregnancy Loss May Be Hard to Find Because pregnancy loss is not always seen as a ‘legitimate’ loss, parents often receive little or no assistance, especially in isolated areas where support services are not readily available. …But Needed As human beings moving through a grieving process, we naturally look for the care and […]

Disenfranchised Grief: Unacknowledged Pain Parents who experience pregnancy loss are often experiencing disenfranchised grief. This is grief which has little social recognition or where the loss has been hidden from others. The grief essentially has no voice or is not acknowledged in society. This is especially the case with pregnancy loss which is often seen […]

With advances in prenatal care, especially ultrasound imaging, pregnancy loss has become more meaningful at an earlier stage for fathers as well as mothers. In many cases, the grieving USA: National Institute Mental Health. process can be different for men and women. Different Reactions to Pregnancy Loss Will Stress Your Relationship Traumatic events like pregnancy […]

Confusion of Ambiguous Loss With pregnancy loss, unlike other deaths, it can be hard for a family member or friend to understand what exactly hasbeen lost. Confusion over what has been lost is often referred to as ‘ambiguous loss’, which simply means that it is a loss that people are unsure of, it is hidden, […]

Dealing with Miscarriage - Confronting Survivor's Guilt

What is Survivor’s Guilt? Survivor guilt is the feeling of guilt we get when we have survived something that someone else hasn’t. Generally, we think of survivor guilt relating to a major disaster such as an earthquake or plane crash, but survivor guilt is not exclusive to this type of tragedy. Survivor’s Guilt and Miscarriage […]

Five Stages of Grief and Miscarriage

August 6, 2015
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Although there are several different models of grief, the most commonly accepted version has five stages. These five stages look different on all of us, but there are always five – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.[1] After a loss, not everyone goes through the stages of grief in the same way. We can’t be […]

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How to Cope with a Miscarriage – Our Decisions

January 11, 2015

There are potentially so many decision to make before, during and after a miscarriage that it can leave us wondering whether we have done the right thing. The process of losing our babies is devastating, particularly when everything is geared toward new life, which instead turns into an unexpected death. Often the process of losing […]

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Miscarriage Recovery

February 10, 2012
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There is no “Normal” recovery How should we respond to the loss of our babies? Is there a right or wrong way? Why do we each respond so differently to similar situations? A short gestation does not naturally result in less grief and pain, and a longer gestation doesn’t naturally result in more intense grief. […]

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Miscarriage – How to Avoid the Shame Game

February 3, 2012
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What is Shame? Shame is Poisonous Shame and guilt often walk hand in hand. The difference is that shame can bury itself far deeper, and is much more poisonous. Where guilt is a feeling about something we have done, shame is the conclusion we come to about ourselves as a result of that act. Guilt […]

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Coping with the “Guilt” of a Miscarriage

January 13, 2012
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What is Guilt? Guilt, quite simply, is unresolved anger that we have turned inward against ourselves. It is usually related to something that we have or haven’t done. Guilt can also feel like shame and denial and leaves us restricted mentally, emotionally and often physically. Guilt and Shame – the Connection Guilt can also lead […]

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