How should we respond to the loss of our babies? Is there a right or wrong way? Why do we each respond so differently to similar situations? A short gestation does not naturally result in less grief and pain, and a longer gestation doesn’t naturally result in more intense grief. As we discussed in the [...]

What is Shame? Shame and guilt often walk hand in hand. The difference is that shame can bury itself far deeper, and is much more poisonous. Where guilt is a feeling about something we have done, shame is the conclusion we come to about ourselves as a result of that act. Guilt is the feeling [...]

With advances in prenatal care, especially ultrasound imaging, loss of pregnancy has become more meaningful at an earlier stage for fathers as well as mothers. In many cases, the grieving USA: National Institute Mental Health. process can be different for men and women. Traumatic events like pregnancy loss can put extreme pressure on our primary [...]

Survivor guilt is the feeling of guilt we get when we have survived something that someone else hasn’t. Generally, we think of survivor guilt relating to a major disaster such as an earthquake or plane crash, but survivor guilt is not exclusive to this type of tragedy. Survivor guilt can be experienced within the realm [...]

Guilt, quite simply, is unresolved anger that we have turned inward against ourselves. It is usually related to something that we have or haven’t done. Guilt can also feel like shame and denial and leaves us restricted mentally, emotionally and often physically. Guilt can also lead us to bury our fears and secret beliefs about [...]