30 Steps Toward Healing – Step 9: Expressing Anger

30 Steps Toward Healing - Step 9: Expressing- Anger

“Don’t hold on to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from  love”   Leo Buscaglia

Anger occurs when something happened that we don’t want to happen.  Many people who experience pregnancy loss are quick to dismiss anger and bury it deep within but like sadness, anger must be expressed completely before we can let it go.

Releasing anger can also lead us to deeper levels of sadness which it may be covering up and it is normal

to feel sad after expressing anger, especially for women.  Many women feel more comfortable expressing sadness but if there is anger toward someone or something present, we won’t heal until the anger is expressed too.

We need to create an opportunity to get angry so that we can release what we are holding in.  It is important to do this in a safe environment and not direct it toward another person in an attempt to cause hurt.

Action:A great way to express anger is to punch a pillow or a punching bag once you have identified something that causes you to become angry.Identify the situation that has caused you to feel the greatest amount of anger and bring that to light.  Use that thought to trigger your anger and release it by safely using a physical strategy like punching a pillow or punching bag.