30 Steps Toward Healing – Step 30: Choice

Beyond Preganancy Loss -Choice - Step 30 of 30 Steps Towards Healing - Infographic

“Simply touching a difficult memory with some slight willingness to heal begins to soften the holding and tension around it”

Stephen Levine

As we begin to live again and enjoy our life, we often feel that in doing so, we are betraying our loved one. We can never replace what has been lost, but we can make new choices, new connections, new meaningful relationships, new inter-dependencies. Instead of denying our feelings, we listen to our needs; we move, we change, we grow, we evolve. We may start to reach out to others and become involved in their lives. We invest in our friendships and in our relationship with ourselves. We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.

 All of this requires a conscious decision to heal.  Choice is a powerful mechanism to propel us forward to a life after loss. Some days the choice is easier than others but each and every day that choice lies ahead of us willing us to make the one that serves us best.  Make the choice that is best for you each and every day – choose to heal.

Action: What choice do you need to make each day?  Make a commitment to actively choose how you will behave and who you want to be defined as from this day forward.