30 Steps Toward Healing – Step 3 – Grieving

30 Steps Toward Healing - Step 3: Grieving

“Remember that grief is a necessary pain. It’s your way to heal. To starve it will destroy you”.  SM Boyce

The loss of someone we love always triggers a grief process and although this is significant, another aspect of grief that we rarely discuss is the loss of our hopes and dreams that surrounded the loss of our baby.

Understanding the path that grief takes us on can help in our healing but we must understand that it is not a set path where we move from one stage to the next in a given time; We can move in and out of the stages and back and forth depending on our personal circumstances.  The stages are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance and what matters is that we fully embrace each stage and not hold back anything we are feeling about the loss of our baby or our hopes and dreams that we lost as well.  Grief is an essential part of our growth and healing and we should make no apologies for it.

Action: Take time to review the stages of grief you have been in so far.  Trust yourself that you are exactly where you need to be right now. Create an opportunity to acknowledge to yourself the hopes and dreams that you have lost in addition to your baby.