30 Steps Toward Healing – Step 22: Allowing Joy

Beyond Preganancy Loss -Allowing Joy - Step 22 of 30 Steps Towards Healing - Infographic

“Don’t be concerned about being disloyal to your pain by being joyous”

 Pir Vilavat Inavat Khan

Joy is a state of pure bliss and it is attained by bringing comfort and relief to other people. Doing so will bring joy to your life every day.

Joyfulness is the characteristic of feeling and expressing deep happiness and enthusiasm. As an attitude of the spirit, it can permeate even the most sorrowful situation. When we open ourselves to joy, we let in light and laughter, strength and grace.

It may seem inappropriate to be feeling any level of joy after the loss of a baby but there are moments of joy to be seen in everything we do, even the most tragic of experiences. Joy may show itself in the form of a compassionate nurse who makes you laugh so don’t allow the tragedy of the situation prevent you from feeling joy – if nothing else, your baby would want you to feel happiness so look for these opportunities amongst the sadness.

Action: Think of a moment in your experience where you felt joy, whether you are happy about something that happened or a person you have met because of this loss